Cayden is a creator. He loves to create something. He takes joy in a finished coloring page. He takes joy in drawing a picture for me. He values my words about what he creates.
Since his mom is not a creator I try to find things to stimulate this side of him. This past year he was enrolled in an art class once a week. It was awesome and he did so well! I loved his anticipation as to what he would make each Monday as we drove to class.
Every day before school he would say the same thing to me. As we were getting ready or eating breakfast he would look at me and say “What will I make today?”. He was already thinking about what he would create. His mind just works that way.
Today was his first day of VBS at a local church. He was super excited and we went over a million times about using our manners, speaking up when someone talks to you and reciting his first and last name. We were prepared!
As I picked him up he seemed happy and as usual was most excited about showing me his works of art. We ran out to the hall to find his pile of stuff. You know how they do it at churchs, they line all the kids works of art in the hall and then all their stuff is together. We found his pile and there is only one thing there. Most of the piles have two. He tells me that something he did isn't there. I could see he was about to loose it. His eyes were looking at me as if they were saying “mom what i made isn't here, you have to find it.”
So I pulled his nice teacher aside and asked her if she had anything else that he might have “created”. She said there was nothing else they had done that wasn't out there. Cayden looked at me and shook his head as if to tell me, “no mom, she's lying, check again!”. So I asked Cayden what he was talking about. He looked at me and then looked at her and said “the flower picture”. Immediately the teacher knew what he was talking about. She explained to me and reminded Cayden that those were pieces of a quilt that everyone decorated and then they were going to make it into a nice quilt for someone that is in need. It was as if her words sounded like Charlie Brown's teacher to him. He wasn't buying it!
He couldn't understand how he wasn't bringing home what he made. We almost had a full on four year old melt down right there in the church hall, that we're not members of, surrounded by underwater creatures that decorated the hall. He argued with the teacher. Telling her he wanted what he had made. I just nodded at her and told her I would take care of it, we'd talk about it in the car. We stopped down the hall and I knelt down on his level and tried to express my sympathy to him for not being able to take home the flower he drew. I talked about charity and helping others. Still nothing. He wanted the flower. Finally I gave up and we headed to the car.
He was silent the whole way home. I tried to talk he wouldn't. He was mad. You see, he is a creator. He loves to make something and bring it home and show it off. It did NOT make sense why he had made something and was not bringing it home.
Finally after lunch he looked at me and asked if the quilt would help someone. I went over the whole thing again and he smiled and seemed to have gotten it. I told him we could ask his teacher if we could see the quilt at the end of the week. That seemed to make him happy.
Oh the problems of four year old's! I think we might deal with this again, since the craft scheduled listed 2 other days where the projects will be donated to a different organization. Oh no! Not again! A long week of life lessons is ahead of us!
i had an idea while reading your post. do you have a little point & shoot camera? maybe slip it in your purse and take a picture of cayden’s art that is going to be given away. then you can bring it home and put it on the computer or print it out and put it wherever you display the artwork. that way he would still get to show it off, and it would still get to help someone!
one thing i bought for my creator is a big sketch book…..hard bound and everything…that way he will always have a collection of his work…..during the summer at least every other day i suggest he sits down and finds something to sketch…..i also got him some special art pencils……you could put objects on the table(like a banana) and have him draw them….it is amazing how soon they learn to pay attention to detail…..have fun
1st…you are brilliant teaching him to say his first and last name. I am the preschool director and Calvary and there were 5 kids that we just had to write their first name on their name tags until we got their registration forms from the front (which wasn’t happening last night…they were busy) So anyway…had to give you props on that one!
That art thing is hilarious. I could sense the melt down coming with your story! He did well it seems….just had to process it!