I avoided a crisis today. A BIG crisis. The one we all fear.
I was laying in bed with Cayden before rest time about to read him another book when he asked if I wanted to have another baby in my belly.
I said “No I think we have enough kids.”
Then it happened.
He asked what I always fear will come out of baby talk questions.
“How do you get babies?” he said.
I ignored him just hoping he would move on to the next question of the day since his rate of questions has dramatically increased due to no school these days.
He in fact said it again.
I was wondering where in the world his dad was at this moment and if we could call him to interrupt him with whatever he was doing and have him talk to him about this. I mean he should talk to the boys and I can handle the girls. I was not wanting to do this conversation now.
Instead I said this …. “Well you can adopt them if they need a family. That's how babies get here.”
pause. hoping he accepts it.
Then he says, “oh cool. what book is next?”
Oh my word it worked. I didn't have to say p*nis, v*gina, s*x or any of those words to my sweet innocent 6 year old son. He now only thinks kids get into families through adoption.
For today that is.
I came home from kindergarten one day and informed my parents what sex was… according to what a bunch of kindergartners had been saying. Thats when they knew it was time to “have the talk” with me but they did it very age appropriately. My Dad went to the Christian book store and found a children’s book that explained about where babies come from. I remember they sat me down one night before bed and read the book to me. It was very discreet but still left me with the knowledge I needed… a baby is formed out of love between a mommy and daddy. It went into a bit more detail but it definitely didn’t use any of the oh so feared p and v words. It was fairly painless for my parents and it left me in awe of the fact that my mom and dad knew waaaay more than the kids at school.
Its maybe not the most conventional way or time but it left me not just with an understanding of “where babies come from” but also with a new understanding of how big God is and how cool it was that He let my mom and dad make/ have me.
Just a thought for you if Cayden keeps asking questions. But hopefully he’ll be satisfied with your good answer for now, after all he should just know that his Mommy knows what she’s talkin about! 😉
So funny Jamie! I have answered this very same question from my just 5 year old with great phrases like, “Mommies and Daddies love each other very much”… “they have alone time”…”God forms them through a miracle!” Maybe this will keep him from being alone with a girl for a long time. 😉 A good book to brush the surface of this is “When God Gave Us You”. And good dodge Momma!