Real – –adjective
1. true; not merely ostensible, nominal, or apparent: the real reason for an act.
2. existing or occurring as fact; actual rather than imaginary, ideal, or fictitious: a story taken from real life.

The other day I was having a conversation with an adult, professional male and we were talking about my kids. He was wondering if we were going to have more and this is how he asked:

Mr. Ignorant: So, will you guys have more kids anytime soon?
Me: Yes probably in about two years we'll talk about it.
Mr. Ignorant: Will you have a real one or adopt one?
Me: (trying to figure out if he really did just say that) um …. probably ….. um … a …. um … we're thinking of another adoption and another biological.

What the hell?

I'm serious that question makes me so mad! People, think before you speak. Is my adopted son any less “real” than my biological child? Yes, I know what he meant, but that is not what he said, and YES I take offense to his stupidity!

Here's a hint:
ALL children are real

I didn't say anything, because I was so shocked and caught off guard, and because I'm a chicken. BUT if this happens when my kids are around and could understand what is being said – then YES I will have to speak up. I would NEVER EVER EVER want either one of them to hear someone talk about them this way.

Jamie Ivey