At a girls night recently we started talking about panties. I'm not sure how it happened or who brought it up, but none the less we were discussing each others panties and why they wore what they wore. I was the oldest one in the group, the one married the longest, and the one with the most kids. That information may not be relative, but I'm using it to my advantage when I explain what went down next.
I confessed to my girls that I never wore pretty panties. They all gasped and couldn't believe that I would fall into the temptation of living in granny-panties, and that I actually admitted it to other ladies. The three that wore only pretty panties have been married the least amount of time. Does this make a difference?
They asked me why, and when did this happen, and most importantly what did Aaron think about this. I actually remember when this switch happened for me. I was getting ready for my first trip to Haiti and bought a whole package of cotton undies for the trip. What happened next in my life was that I realized how comfy these panties were and I was sold. I never thought of asking Aaron, I just went with it! I mean it's my body, right?!? I then told them that it didn't matter to Aaron. He's never said anything, and besides I don't think he really cares what kind of undies I wear.
We all laughed a lot and I told them that I was gonna pick up a pair of pretty panties next time I was at Target. Well fast forward about a week or two and I was at Target and remembered the vow I had made to my girls to try some pretty panties. I found some and made the purchase. I was proud. I texted them all to let them know that I had made the purchase! That night was date night and so I thought I'd see if these panties really made a difference or not.
Aaron and I were enjoying a great night when I dropped the bomb on him and told him that I had bought new panties and they were “pretty panties”. I then told him the whole story about me talking with my girls and how I had told them that he really didn't care anyways.
What happened next blew my mind and if you are a wife and only wear grandma panties I'm about to rock your marriage. Guess what? Aaron did care. He did notice. He just is too sweet to say anything. He went on to explain that it's the little things that mean a lot to him. When I wear make up and fix my hair for the day and have nothing going on, he notices. When I dress in something other than jeans, t-shirts and tennis shoes, he notices and loves it. When I take care of my body, he notices. Even what I wear under my clothes is noticed by my man.
I'm telling you this ladies to share with you that what we do is noticed. Wearing pretty panties instead of grandma panties says something to your man. Putting on lipstick for no reason says something to your man. Taking care of our bodies says something to our men.
If you happen to be like I used to be and didn't have pretty panties, I'm urging you now to go get some and see if your man notices. I bet he will!
This is all too true Jamie! After nearly 22 years of marriage and two grown children and foster kids coming and going….I learned some time ago that it really make a difference to my man that I wear pretty panties! And they make great ones out of cotton too….so still comfy!!
Thanks for this Jamie! As a newlywed (married since December), I have tried to make an effort to wear pretty panties for my husband when we’re together – we’re actually in a long-distance marriage at the moment – and he’s said something once or twice, but mostly doesn’t mention anything at all. It helps to hear from someone who’s been married a lot longer that it does help and make a difference to our husbands.
My husband prefers when I whisper into his ear on our date night that I am not wearing any panties….give that a try……it’s so much cheaper.
This def sparked a conversation btw the hubbie and I. He said he could care less abt the panties. I still purchased a few new ones just to test his theory and because I hadn’t bought any new underwear in awhile. Fast forward to this week and it’s time to go bra shopping and for once I ask his opinion. Here’s where I got screened. He requested no nude bras. What?! The most practical, but to him the least attractive. So I bought pretty bras instead.
Good for you for asking Sarah!!!
Its no coincidence that I stumbled upon this fun post of yours, cause I know my husband of 7years & 2 kids later cares, but he is also sweet not to say anything about my plain cotton undies. I actually love wearing pretty ones even for myself, they make me feel pretty, and add a special touch only he and I know about to my simple modest clothing I normally wear. I was wondering though, if you or any of your readers know of a brand or place to find pretty ones that are cotton and comfy enough for everyday wear? I have plenty of date night special ones, but would like something practical yet still attractive for the day to day. Preferably nothing too expensive, my husband also cares about being frugal! 🙂 thanks!
Kaye, I can almost always fine great cotton panties that are pretty at Victoria Secreat!! Watch for their sales!! And you get a much better deal!! And they are so well made they will last you longer than the average pairs you’d find at places like Walmart. Another inexpensive option is Target and Kohls. But I have found it is worth it to invest a little more in your pretty panties that are cotton! They will last longer, & make you and the hubby happy! ;D
I think the moral of the story is to ask your man what little things mean something to him. I’ve been married a little over a year, and before I got married I was a no frills pattened cotton panties girl. When I got married, of course I got some sassier stuff from my lingerie shower and enjoyed wearing them and feeling sexy, presumably for my husband. BUT, over the course of the year, I found out my husband PREFERS my plain cotton panties that don’t have lace or bows (I still like the patterns though!). He’s more of a bra man, like Sarah’s husband. He loves it when I wear a colored or patterned bra. He also likes me better WITHOUT make up and in my usual tshirts. I recently found out that he likes skirts and it does bless him when I wear one on a date night or what not. All this to say, better to find out what he likes than to try to do what you think because he may have totally different ideas! It’s all about communicating; but then isn’t most of marriage? 🙂
You reminded me of something. I’m from Houston so I used to go see Beth Moore every Tuesday night. Years and years ago, I was there with my friend Shanna, who was my own personal fashion gestapo (every girl should have at least one.) The topic of proper undergarments had already been addressed with me because I am all about comfort and Shanna considered this a major character flaw on my part.
Beth was teaching in white pants. Being the incredibly holy and spiritual person I am, I was staring at her butt, wondering how she could pull of wearing white pants while moving around all over the pulpit. I turned and with surprise, whispered to Shanna, “Beth is wearing a thong!!”
Shanna turned to me, and with lasers shooting out of her eyeballs, whispered back, “AND EVERYBODY SHOULD!!!!”
I still don’t. But the memory makes me giggle.
Missy that’s the best story ever!!!
I just found your blog, and this post, which I love, haha. I asked my husband of 4 years about this topic a few months ago and discovered that he loves girly undies – with little bows, lace, etc. I would have never guessed because I am not girly at all! It’s so funny that guys have an underwear preference, but I mean it makes sense. 😛 And same with the other commenter, he doesn’t like nude bras, but you have to have them so what can you do! By the way, I always get Victoria’s Secret cotton bikinis… they’re cute AND comfy, win win.