Thank goodness February is over and I can be on my computer all day long now while my kids are awake.
All 29 days of February were hard for me and I learned so much about myself. I was constantly reminded of my selfish heart and my need for control in doing things when I wanted to do them instead of putting them off until bedtime or nap time. I wrote all about February on Kat's blog, and you can read about how February went for me over there.
Now it's March and to tell you how busy our family has been lately, it's March fifth and I'm just now bringing the challenge up on my blog. Oh I have thought about it and even implemented it, but put together no computer time while kids are awake challenge, giving up social media for lent, a conference here last week, and I have had no computer time!
This month I'm challenging myself to spend one on one time with each kid each week. If you have one kid I think you might judge me a bit for having to make this a challenge. I think one of the hardest things about having four kids is the lack of individual time they each get with each parent. It seems that with each kid you add, you have less time one on one with the other. I'm a fan of four kids and love it, I'm just pointing out one of the struggles that our family has.
Time and money are issues that you have to address. Time with each kid individually means that three kids are getting no attention if I'm the only parent here. Money with spending one on one time can add up very quickly if I'm feeling like I have to “do” something with my kids outside the house that costs money.
Here's what March looks like for me. I'm going to fight for intentionality. To be WITH my kids. To be ENGAGED in them. To LISTEN to them. To BE with them. This doesn't mean that I take a kid to a baseball game each week and spend an arm and a leg on nasty hot dogs and nachos. That is fun and I just did that with the boys and it was such a fabulous mommy-son night!
This past week I asked Amos to help me with dinner while the other kids played. He LOVES to do this and it can make his day to help in the kitchen, and it allowed us to talk without the other brothers interrupting or Story needing something. It was just him and I. I was able to encourage him for his help and ask about his day with intentionality.
Yesterday, Deacon was showing me some jacks that he had gotten from his teacher. I was super busy and could have easily smiled and continued on with laundry, but I didn't. I remembered my desire to be WITH them, and I asked him to show me how to play, and we played. I think the game is stupid, but he doesn't and it was just him and I for a few moments, and that is worth it all!
My desire for this month is to be a continual reminder that my kids deserve all of me. Life can get so busy and the calendar can fill up so quickly, but at the end of the day I want my priorities to fall into line where they are supposed to be.
You wanna join me for March?
Spend one on one time with each kid each week for the month of March. Leave me a comment if you are joining! We're all on this motherhood journey together!!
Jamie! I love this! I am from a family of four and my mom put us to bed every night and sang us a song till high school! It was alone time with my mom I could guarantee! and has a middle child of four it was priceless to me!!! I am excited for your family!
Thanks Melissa – What a great reminder. I love bedtime because that means “mommy time” is about to begin and I can sometimes rush bedtime just so I can be alone. 😉 I need to be reminded of this sweet time that will one day be gone.
I remember always wanting my mom and dad to tuck me in, that even in high school I would ask my dad to come tuck me in. This may be weird, but when Aaron works late in the studio sometimes I still like to be tucked in. There’s just something about someone putting you to bed and kissing you on the head and telling you night night. Even as a grown woman I like that!
I’m in! I have been REALLY trying at night to have a quiet discussion with each child after we say goodnights…I didn’t realize it was something they really were enjoying until last night Landen asked me if we were going to “you know” and i was like…um…”what?” and he said, “you know, talk…” oh it was awesome! And each child gets just like 5 minutes TOPS for this little endeavor but apparently, it really means something to them…
I am going to join you in intentionality! I want to BE WITH my kids, not just be in the general vicinity.
Tamara glad you are in! You know what life is like with four kids!!! On a good night I try to get in bed with each of them and “talk” with each of them. I’ve had some of the best conversations with my kids ever at night when tucking them in!