Sometimes I wonder if a few white lies are really that bad. I mean how much harm can it do to not tell the WHOLE truth about something.
This morning after my run at the gym I was minding my own business in the locker room getting dressed. There was another woman in there, but I barely noticed she was there b/c I had a 100 things going on in my head and was in a hurry. I want to let you in on our conversation that happened this morning. Let's see if we can count how many white lies there are ….
Setting: locker room at the gym, both of us getting dressed after shower ….
Lady: Are you single?
Me: No, I'm married.
Lady: Oh, you have any kids?
Me: Yes I have four kids. (I always say four b/c it's too much to explain half are here half are there, etc.)
Lady: OH MY GOSH! (glancing over my body up and down) you look awesome. I can't believe you have had four kids. You are so skinny.
Me: (pondering for a milli second on whether I should tell her that 3 of them didn't come out of me) … oh gosh, THANKS!
Lady: You must work out a lot.
Me: (wondering if I should tell her that I just got the gym membership two days ago and just got new shoes) …. oh yeah, I try to.
Lady: Your husband must have a good job.
Me: well, yeah he does.
Lady: you must have a good job too.
Me: oh i stay home with the kids.
Lady: OH MY GOSH YOU ARE SO LUCKY!
Lady: How old are your kids?
Me: 5, 4, 4 & 2.
Me: (once again … way too hard to explain and it would blow my cover) … um yeah.
Lady: (glancing over my body yet again) wow and you had twins.
By this point I'm certain I'm going straight to hell and trying to make sure she doesn't follow me to pick up my kids and realize they are both black and I'm white. It would ruin my whole game.
There was a part of me that felt awful for how this went down and yet another part that enjoyed her gawking over my body! I mean I DO HAVE FOUR KIDS!
We do this a lot with our foster babies. Sometimes I just need to get on with the shopping and don’t feel like explaining the situation. Especially because all the questions people ask once they know they’re foster kids are either offensive or asking for confidential info. So they’ll be like “Your baby is adorable!” and I’ll say “thanks”. “how old?” “2 weeks” “WOW! You look great!” “oh, thanks”. Terrible, maybe but soooo much easier. Thankfully all of our black babies have been half. Otherwise I’d be in trouble 🙂 I’d have loved to see her reaction if she saw you with Story!! HA!
i can’t tell you the time when i’ve got all 4 of the little ones with me [7, 6, 5 & 15m] & i hear…”triplets?” – before i can think or speak, the girls all together say, “yes, we’re triplets!” – i asked them one time why they said that [after the 1st time it happened] & kiara said, “coz, we knew you didn’t HAVE us in your tummy, but if they think we’re triplets then they’ll think you DID have us in your tummy & that makes us feel good” – also, in the adoption world i’ve heard countless times that if you’ve adopted children less than 12m apart, then they’re considered ‘adopted twins’ or ‘twinning’, so…i think it’s great! [just wish i had your body!]
LOVE it! I think you handled it perfectly.
youre going to burn!!! hehehehe
Someone told me I look really good for having three young children – Kobe was with me – I just smiled and said thank you!! I don’t think it warrants an explanation to a complete stranger because you DO have four children!!!!! You deserve the compliment 🙂
I don’t think it is really her business. You do have 4 kids. She can think what she wants.
I have carried twins (37 weeks, 2 days, and I gained 70 pounds) and when I get dressed in front of other women I usually do it very quickly. 🙂 The weight has come off, but a tummy tuck is the only thing that would make my tummy look like J-lo’s. Your story made me smile.
I love that look – the look that I am certain she had! I get that when I say I am 40 and have children who are 24, 17,16,15,13,12 & 5. It is always followed by “You don’t look old enough for that!” I reply – I’m not but I have them anyway! Something just dont need explained!
teehee! love it. 🙂
you left out parts of the story from when you told me. 🙂
That is the funniest story!! LOL I’ll forgive your little white lie. You were too far into it to confess. lol
Dang that is funny! Thanks for sharing and being real. I’ve for sure worked myself into some really cruddy situations like that. It’s like God enjoys watching me make a fool of myself… or something.
that just made me laugh out loud! That is a great perk with adoption…i’m sticking to one bio baby too…and feel skinny!